The first level of love is the lowest vibrational level of love. As you learn about these levels of love,you will begin to notice how normal it is to bounce in an out of them during the course of your day. Unfortunately, most people get stuck living life inside of the first three levels. Practicing levels 4-6 will create a more fulfilling struggle free existence. WARNING: Consciously adding the 7th and 8th levels to your everyday actions may cause you to stay uncontrollably happy.
1st Level of Loving | Overcoming Fear
Anytime you are feeling like a victim, you are in this level. Try not to stay stuck here. Signs that you are spending too much time in this level of love: You have fears of being in a relationship, being alone, being abandoned or getting hurt or falling into the same relationship traps again. You spend time feeling depressed or melancholy. This is victim consciousness with a capitol V. Fear prevents us from finding great relationships and also prevents us from leaving bad relationships.
Body part this relates to: Base of Spine
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How well you were able to notice and release any type of fear today?
_____ (1-10)
2nd Level of Loving | Romance, Chemistry, Sexual Love & Chemical Cocktail of Attraction
Romance often blinds us to what’s real. The moment you fall for someone or something you are blinding yourself to the whole picture. This applys to a new job as well as a new relationship. Anything new, has “new energy” so it’s easy to be excited and enthusiastic and overlook important red flags. This level is fun to experience but it temporarily masks any fear you felt in level one. So in away, it’s a quick fix. It is a lower level of love because its foundation is built on fantasy. Temporary illusions feel wonderful. Knowing someone’s faults or shadow side and loving them anyway is a higher level of love. Getting sexual too soon with someone will also blind one to a partners shadow side. Raise yourself to a higher level of love by expressing your sexuality with a higher level of connection and emotional completion.
Body part this relates to: Ovaries / Reproductive Organs
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. Did you see the full picture of a situation or person and not just what you wanted to see or hear today?
_____ (1-10)
3rd Level of Loving | Conflict -Knee Jerk Reactions, Brutal Honesty, Judging, Evaluations & Assessment
This is a higher level of loving because you are no longer willing to be a victim. However, in this level, you are coming from an angry, defiant place. You will more critical of yourself or others. A rollercoaster of emotions is present. You will find yourself acting RIGHTEOUS about your point of view. Other signs that you or someone you are dealing with is in the 3rd level: You find yourself or someone else saying “I’m not going to take it anymore.”, “I’ll show them.”, “You are the problem not me.” and “I’ll teach you a lesson.” Your gut will be churning. Emotional love barriers reveal themselves when you are in the 3rd level. Couples will first see this level show up after their initial 90 days together.
Body part this relates to: Gut / Solar Plexus
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How well were you able to notice, accept and release your emotions, judgments, or evaluations of yourself or others today?
____ (1-10)
The Trap: Examples in Level 1-3
Your partner is late calling you from a business trip. You panic thinking s/he’s having an affair (Level 1).You say to yourself. “Oh stop worrying s/he loves you and would never do this to you. (Level 2), S/He still doesn’t call and you say; “That’s it, I’m going to show him/her how it feels to not be in communication and you take the phone off the hook or you tell him off before he has a chance to say what happened.(Level 3) Then you go back to level one fear worrying that your relationship is damaged, then to making up and everything is fine but all you really did waspush it under the carpet and pretend it didn’t happened.
4th Level of Loving | Finding & Recognizing Soulmate Love with Heart-Centered, Unconditional, Loving and Compassion
Signs you have moved from the 3rd level to the 4th: You find yourself saying things like: “I understand why they reacted that way.” You no longer let yourself get upset by what someone says or does. Or, you react but quickly move back to compassion. You notice the potential for upset when something triggers you and you give yourself some compassion and move beyond the upset with lightening speed. Focus on sending someone a mental hug when you want to move from a lower level of love to a higher level. Avoid unnecessary drama by noticing when someone else is expressing a 3rd level emotion and refusing to lower your level. If you react to someone else when they are in level 3 you will invite more negativity into your life. Road rage comes from third level.
Body part this relates to: Heart and Chest.
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How unconditional, patient, accepting, forgiving were you today?
____ (1-10)
Example continued: You notice how you feel in your body when s/he doesn't call. You acknowledge any fears you might have either in writing or verbally to yourself. When s/he does call you are able to calmly say, "For a few moments I was worried. I am so glad that you have called me now."
5th Level of Loving | Speaking with Emotional Honesty/Asking for What you Need & Want
How you know you are coming from this level is that you are able to tell your partner everything and anything and still stay in love with each other. Lesson: To ask for what you want instead of being a giver all the time. Being able to tell your fears, loves, dreams, screw-ups in spite of any fears. Communicating with Emotional Honesty is not sharing an opinion. It feels risky, but freeing and worthwhile. Telling someone that you feel attracted to them is emotionally honest, risky and juicy, all at the same time.
Body part this relates to: Throat
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How well you were you able to use emotional honesty to ask for what you really wanted from others?
____(1-10)
Example continued: S/he calls you and you say what you did in the 4th level and adds, "When you didn't call me as promised, I felt tension in my gut, and I felt (choose one or more) sad/ angry/ hurt/ mad when that happened. I appreciate you for calling me now."
6th Level of Loving | Intuitive Loving. Communication without Words. Seeing Someone’s Soul Essence
Being able to look someone and know without communicating with words what their soul is all about. Knowing what’s going on inside them at the deepest emotional level. Being able to separate actions and behaviors from whom they really are inside. You will know you are here when you trust your 6th sense to help you choose the right partner and know what actions to take to raise the consciousness of your relationships.
Body part this relates to: Between Eyes/ The Third Eye
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How much attention have you paid to your intuitive side today?
___(1-10)
Example: After moving from 4th and 5th levels, pause, be still for a moment and try to sense what is really going on with your partner without words.
7th Level of Loving | Connecting Spiritually & Developing Total Trust
If you believe in a higher power such as God, Jesus, Buddha, etc., then you can also benefit from knowing that you can totally trust that the perfect Soulmate/Situation/ Job exists for you. You will be able to draw a line in the sand and ask for a situation to improve or else. You have full faith that you can have what you want and that God will provide you with the next best Soulmate/ Situation/ Job
Body part this relates to: Top of Head
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How much attention you spend in trust ____ with your spirituality. Did you pray? Meditate? Ask for guidance?
_____(1-10)
Example: You put the situation in God’s hands and know that it will all turn out, as it should. If you continue to pray after this, you are not exhibiting trust and faith. You are in an intense worry situation and not letting go and letting God handle it.
8th Level of Loving | The Realm of Miracles and Miraculous Loving
Being open to miracles is essential for this realm to appear. In the realm of miracles people make dramatic overnight changes. People meet in the most unusual of circumstances. Imagine what life would be like with a partner who is willing to embrace and look for miracles in your life together.
Body part this relates to: Outside Body/ The Universe
Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. How open you are to miracles occurring in your life?
_____(1-10)
Apply these levels of love to every situation in your life on a daily basis and watch your life become struggle free!
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